Episode 43 - Getting Your Kids to Fall in Love With You

We’ve started a new therapy program called Parent Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT). We’ve only been to two sessions with the girls but have found that this “proven” program really works. If you’d like to start using some of the skills we’re learning try using this acronym

Praise appropriate behavior
Reflect appropriate talk
Imitate appropriate play
Describe appropriate behavior
Enthusiasm

We also mention a daily ritual that we use in our marriage. The “5 A’s”

Appreciation
Affection
Apologize
Ask (what can I do for you tomorrow?)
Amen (how can I pray for you?)

 
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Episode 42 - Two Working Parents

Can you foster kids while both parents work?  Yes you can but it has some extra challenges.  We discuss how we do it.

Also an update on our chance encounter discussed in our last episode and a shout out to some strangers we met through our show.

 
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Episode 41 - Chance Encounter

Our 4th of July (err Independence Day) celebration brought about a chance encounter that we had hoped to avoid. It’s a foster parent nightmare come to pass.

 
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Episode 40 - Fost-Adopt Disruption

What’s a disruption?  We give our thoughts on a fost-adopt placement that ends up getting reunified.  This is not something we have experienced ourselves so we’d love to hear listener feedback.

 
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Episode 39 - Foster Care in the Media

We bemoan the bad wrap foster parenting tends to get in the media.  We also offer up a review of the movie “Losing Isaiah” starring Halle Berry and Jessica Lange.

Stay tuned for the end of this episode.  We have a special treat for all of our listeners.  You’ll want to hear it.

 
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Episode 38 - When Your Social Worker Doesn’t Return Calls

We discuss the very real problem of social workers who do not return calls.  We offer advice and suggestions for getting them to call back with out suggesting a death in your home.

 
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Episode 37 - Courtroom Drama

We had three days in court this week. For once, there was an outcome. Listen for a play-by-play.

“We receive enlightenment only in proportion as we give ourselves more and more completely to God by humble submission and love. We do not first see, then act; we act, then see. It is only by the free submission of our judgment in dark faith that we can advance to the light of understanding. And that is why the man who waits to see clearly before he will believe never starts on the journey.” – Thomas Merton

Mentioned in this episode:

 
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Episode 36 - I Hate This, Thank You

Our extreme measures to get Linda to stay in bed have garnered some odd reactions from her. A relational benchmark was finally reached for Tim and Andrea. Also, we’re approaching (hopefully) another court date and we discuss what it will mean for our family.

Also, shout outs to Catholic in a Small Town and Tupelo Catholic Podcast. Check out their shows.

 
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Episode 35 - You Can Do It

We discuss our impressions of mediation at this point in the process. We’re not too thrilled with how it has gone to this point.

Wendy shares a story that has meant a lot to her in the last couple of weeks. Check out this video for more inspiration!

We also appreciate our friends, Jon and Amber, over at Monster Cookies for the plug of our show. Check out their podcast.

 
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Episode 34 - Monitored Visits

What to expect at monitored visits. What are they? How often do they happen and why? We share why we prefer to be the monitors even though it exposes us to an awful lot of awkwardness with the birth family.

Also:

  • Wendy’s favorite new podcast: “Creating a Family: Talk about Infertility and Adoption” with Dawn Davenport
  • Help us promote our podcast. Click here.
 
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Episode 33 - Why Our Kids Should See Their Birth Mom

We had some movement on the mediation process and it’s not looking so great. So with that in mind we review for ourselves, why we’re interested in post-adoption visits in the first place.

 
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Episode 32 - Mediation Is More Exciting Than It Sounds

We finally met with our mediator! So we share all the details about what that process is like.

 
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Episode 31 - Taking Foster Kids to Church

A question burning in the minds of all of our listeners, “Can you take foster kids to church?” We give you all the answers as we understand them.

Listener Krysta gave us a heads up on this video that we think is a powerful explanation as to why adoption should be important to Christian.


 
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Episode 30 - Listener Comments

We tackle several of the listener comments that we have not had a chance to get into. A whole episode devoted to our listeners!

We mention:

 
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Episode 29 - Talking with Young Children about Adoption

A book review of Talking with Young Children about Adoption by Mary Watkins and Susan Fisher.

We also briefly mention Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families With Special-Needs Kids : A Guide for Parents and Professionalsby Gregory Keck and Regina Kupecky. Watch out there is a return of the “Listener Corner” theme song!

 
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