Our brief experience fostering teenage girls is discussed in all of its glory. We didn’t have a positive experience but we still think it’s a great idea to foster teenagers. Hopefully someone can learn from our experience (most of all us).
We should also be clear, as always, that Michael, Beth and Clare are not their real names.
Hey you two,
I will listen to this when my husband wakes up (he works for a Seattle co., so gets to sleep in on work days).
We are like you; we are fortunate to be able to work from a home office.
This should be an important one for us to pay attention to, b/c although we are going to foster (with the intent to adopt) a younger set of siblings, we are going to provide respite care for kids of all ages–including teens–in the meantime. Should be an experience!
Cheers,
Michelle
Wow, you guys. Are you going to have gray hair when we see you in a few months?
Thank you for speaking on fostering teenagers – especially since it seems that people would rather foster younger children. My husband and I are particularly interested in fostering to adopt teenagers – we’re leaning more towards boys than girls (we are currently in the process)…however, because of multiple placements and longer instances of abuse we recognize that they too will need “exercises” that promote healthy attachment. Are there any resources that you can recommend regarding promoting attachment with teenagers?
hi .. i began fostering two teenagers – brother (11) and sister (15) … the boy was very difficult from the beginning and would not take orders from me, and failling all is school grades… he was always trying to impose his will not only on me but on his sister as well … she and I were close then since we both felt we had more in common and her behaviour was excellent .. about a year ago the boy punched in the face in middle of a discussion, he was bothering hi sister (his usual passtime) and refused to go study … so i decided to finish the fostering and he is now living with other children in an apartment in the city, he sees his sister once a week and is apparently doing fine …
so i am living with the girl who is now 17 and gradually she becomes more and more difficult, always sulking, over demandind, refuses to do her house chores.. etc. we took a trip to france this summer i was so happy to be able to have this experience and she basically saw nothing, refusing to sightsee and staying at the home we had exchanged watching tv series on internet… i felt really disappointed and told her … she was cold with my sister as well, somebody she has known for as long as me practically … i feel really bad but i simply cannot warm up to her … i have asked the agency to give her therapy sessions i do believe she needs them the uncanny aspect is that she reminds me each day more of her brother …
she will be 18 in 8 months…
thanks for any feed back anybody may have
noel