Episode 26 – Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control

We’re a couple of days late because sickness has struck our home. But we’re back with a review of Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love-Based Approach to Helping Attachment-Challenged Children With Severe Behaviors. The book is authored by Heather Forbes and Bryan Post. They have their own website at BeyondConsequences.com

No, we’re not abandoning Love & Logic and
Yes, we’re recommending this book.
It’s a rare parenting book with a 2 week guarantee and it has helped us. You should check it out.

Note: We’re not sure what’s up with the sound quality. Wendy was actually right next to the microphone and Tim was a couple of feet away. But it sounds exactly opposite of that.

7 thoughts on “Episode 26 – Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control

  1. You were right about the sound. I downloaded it onto my podcast and I would try to turn it up for Wendy and down for Tim by playing with the volume the whole time. I did a good job of it until this one REALLY LOUD LAUGH FROM TIM!

    But, being the total groupie that I am, I still enjoyed every second. I need to remember to pray for you guys again tonight. May God bring you closer to bringing Andrea and Linda into your home for good.

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  3. Hi Tim & Wendy,

    I realize I am posting on a podcast that is over 4 years old, but I need to tell you HOW MUCH I enjoy and am inspired by you and your story!

    My husband and I are in the process of becoming foster parents again after a 5 year hiatus, and we are planning on taking teens this time, as opposed to kids eight and under. I downloaded the first 30 of your podcasts looking for camaraderie. Boy, did I find it! You keep it real and make me laugh out loud as I get to know you guys more and more. I’ve listened to podcasts 1-26 over the past week and am glad to know there are plenty more where those came from, but am disappointed that I found you too late in the game to post comments that would be timely.

    Anyway, I think you are both insightful, funny, kind, inspiring, and I love listening to your podcasts. Can’t wait to see what the next 100 podcasts hold for you and your family!

    Most Warmly,

  4. I second Heather in that I am coming to the party very late, but didn’t want to let that stop me from saying a quick word. First of all, let me just say thank you not only for everything you do and have done (which is a lot), but for being so generous as to share your experience with the world, and thereby, me!

    I am probably a little bit different than your usual listener (just guessing), in that I am not Christian and I am still at least a few years away from becoming a parent by any means, but I enjoy and learn from your podcast immensely. My itunes automatically starts playing the next episode when one ends, and I keep finding myself stuck in a loop of “just one more!” or I’m on the edge of my seat wondering how a new parenting technique will work or whether progress will be made on the adoption front, etc. In other words, I’m on episode 26 and have only been “tuning in” for the past couple of weeks. I had a real laugh when you two were joking about the “must-listen” review that I saw on Itunes so many years later.

    Issues of foster/adoption have long been close to my heart in various forms. Even since childhood, I have felt a passion or a calling to help care for and protect those most vulnerable in our society, and have always felt strongly that love and family are so much more than biology. I actually work in the field of animal welfare, where I have a lot of experience dealing with fostering and adoption of animals, something I just can’t encourage enough. My belief in the importance of foster/adoption has been so strengthened by my work and personal experiences that as I am getting closer to the stage in my life where I will hopefully become a mom, it felt very intuitive to of course consider fostering or adoption.

    Anyway, all of this is to say that the values you express are ones I share on a deep, personal level that makes me incredibly grateful that you are out there and graciously let me listen in and learn from your experiences. I found your podcast because I found myself flooded with questions and concerns as well as just fascinated and curious about the entire “crazy system” and processes behind it. I actually found another podcast about these issues which I didn’t find helpful and was feeling overwhelmed and discouraged when I decided to do one more search for helpful material and fortunately found foster parenting podcast.

    Sorry for writing such a novel here, I only wanted to let you know that I have been inspired, touched, amused, informed, and helped by your show and it’s only right that you know how much I appreciate it. I was particularly discouraged before finding y’alls site and show because many people I talked to were not supportive when I brought up adoption and it has been such a breath of fresh air to hear the ups and downs honestly from people who put aside being scared and just jumped in. I promise more, much shorter comments in the future!

    All my best,

  5. I am also late to the party but just really wanted to tell you how much your podcasts have meant to me. It was really a God thing because I found your podcast randomly but that fact that you are guys add the Christian values really hits home with us! Your trials and tribulations have really gave me a cool opportunity to see what the “Crazy System” really looks like all while going through being licensed through an agency also in Southern California. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us and I look forward to hearing more about your journey!! God Bless! Hope your family is all well so many years after the podcast was recorded! :)

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