We’ve started a new therapy program called Parent Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT). We’ve only been to two sessions with the girls but have found that this “proven” program really works. If you’d like to start using some of the skills we’re learning try using this acronym
Praise appropriate behavior
Reflect appropriate talk
Imitate appropriate play
Describe appropriate behavior
Enthusiasm
We also mention a daily ritual that we use in our marriage. The “5 A’s”
Appreciation
Affection
Apologize
Ask (what can I do for you tomorrow?)
Amen (how can I pray for you?)
i learned so much from this episode!
i’m going to try everything you discussed…
my partner and i would like to try the 5As. Can you recommend any related reading?
(i am from another religion than you and he is an atheist but we want to learn new ways of communicating/reflecting/praying)
Thanks for posting the ritual. My husband and I have been trying to make sure that we talk about important things. We are good about communicating logistical items, like who needs what car tomorrow and when friends are coming over, but I think we miss some of the emotional and spiritual happenings. I will try your approach!
Tim and Wendy,
I linked your blog to mine. I hope that’s OK with you. I’m so excited I was on Listener Corner. Woohoo. I feel like a celebrity:)
I have to say that I agree with Tim’s answer to the “to take a long term placement when not intending to adopt” question in a perfect world. But since it isn’t a perfect world, I also agree with Wendy’s answer. I guess the real answer is to just pray about each placement and whether to take it. Case by case, as you said.
Thanks again for your podcast!!
Julie
PCI T works for new grandparents too. In fact it is a good exercise to try in all your conversations with obvious modifications for adult interactions.
Very interesting… I once was in a position where I was watching young kids in my church for 2 hours a week. I would have liked to have known such ideas, it sounds like it’s really neat. Thank you for all of your hard work!
For those in Tennessee, my family worked with a program called RIP, http://www.ripnetwork.org. This program was instrumental in helping us better parent our child, then a preschooler who sounds a lot like Linda. I have never needed another book, theory or approach – RIP was right on. When a parent realizes that their behavior is as important as the child’s behavior, is a defining moment in this program.