D & K give and update on their last court date with some unexpected results. They discuss what’s next for their family, how Molly and Tommy are handling things and how they emotional navigate “a crazy system.”
Foster & Adoption Parenting Podcast
Join foster parents T and W as they discuss foster care and adoption. With humor, insight and Christian faith, they share their everyday ups and downs as a foster family with hopes of adoption.
One thing I took away from our first foster baby, that was with us from five days old until she was 10 months when she was reunified, was we planted that seed of security in her. No matter what happens in her life… we hope and pray that this little seed will sprout and she will feel secure not matter what is going on around her. She won’t remember us, but we will always be with her. I do believe the love we gave her will always be around her.
My husband and I have been fostering for a while now and have met many foster families that have been doing it for YEARS and YEARS. I can only say that I will pray if the relationship with T and M’s birthmother continues after reunification you will be optomistic yet cautious. We have met people that have had wonderful experiences with this type situation and then we have met others that have not so good experiences. Children can be used as emotional pawns to get things from foster parents.
I love fostering and can tell that you all do as well. It is the most wonderful and the hardest thing we have ever done. I can’t imagine what our lives would have been like had we not met each of the little souls we have loved and cared for.
Best Wishes
D&K,
Thanks for the update. What sticks with me is when you said that you weren’t “owed” Tommy and Molly for being willing to foster them, and that it’s not a failed placement. Succinctly and accurately put, and thanks for that.
Thanks for your kind words. I love the thoughts you shared about your first foster baby. That does add to my peace of mind.
We do certainly need to establish some boundaries with the birth parents we keep up a relationship with. Maybe this would be a good episode in the future.
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All- I wanted to let you know that this morning – July 6- CNN started a series on kids aging out of foster care. The series will continue this week so I wanted to let you know so those interested can watch it. Also- the CNN show got me thinking about fostering teens. (We foster birth to 4 years old because our bio son is four and I figure we should foster the age group we know best.) But the CNN show has us considering teens- I’d love to hear any thoughts the group has about fostering teens. I will go back and listen to Tim and Wendy’s old podcast about Millie I think you called her? The teen girl you fostered. Anyway- any advice or input is welcome. thanks Kim
Here is the link to the CNN show from this morning about kids aging out of foster care in California, and the lack of resources for them due to budget cuts. The show will continue on CNN tomorrow morning with part 2.
http://amfix.blogs.cnn.com/2010/07/06/teens-aging-out-of-foster-care-have-no-homes-no-jobs/
Here is second part of hte CNN series about teens aging out of foster care- 4000 a year in California.
http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/living/2010/07/07/am.emancipation.of.carla.pt.2.cnn
D&K
Thank you for this episode. You are giving a lot of yourself and a lot of love. You’ll be in my thoughts & prayers.
J