Episode 87 – Dealing with False Allegations

After a great many request, T & W found an education on false allegations. We discuss the 4 different types of allegations against foster parents as well as the differences between unfounded, inconclusive and substantiated.  Listen in on how to avoid false allegations and what to do if you’re falsely accused.

6 thoughts on “Episode 87 – Dealing with False Allegations

  1. Such a good episode. Thank you, T and W!

    I love that everytime I listen to your podcast, I learn something. You always have the perfect combination of stories and updates, pieces of learning, and wisdom from your personal experience in each episode.

    Love the podcast! Congratulations on 3 amazing years of this podcast and here’s to (Lord willing) the many years to come! 🙂


    P.S. – T, I really miss the Listener Corner jingles. 🙂 Next episode, maybe?

  2. Thank you for that Podcast! Learning more about a subject like this makes it less stressful! We are waiting for our Department of Justice checks right now, and apparently they are taking months to complete. That’s all we have left until certification! Thank you Tim and Wendy for helping me see the light at the end of this never-ending paperwork tunnel, and for the reminder that it’s all to keep kids safe!

  3. Thank you for your research. I hope I never need to use it, but am glad to know what do should the situation occur!

  4. Thanks so much for this podcast. Great information.

    A few questions for you:
    1) Are there regulations about posting a foster child’s picture online? You two waited until you had adopted your girls. I have some other foster parent friends who sometimes post pictures on facebook of their foster children, with first initials (no names). Do the agencies or government have regulations about pictures and names, to protect privacy?
    2) I’ve heard experienced foster parents say that the most important part of fostering is to DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. Has that been your experience? What types of things need to be documented? You mentioned special incident reports, but also briefly mentioned weekly reporting. What does that entail? Do you spend much time (how much) on paperwork on a weekly basis?

    Thanks so much!

    Shannon in Indiana <

  5. Hi Shannon,

    Our agency recently had us sign a policy stating that we would not post pictures of the kids on social networking sites. It is a new policy. I would advise that if your agency does not have this policy that you either do not post pictures or only post them in “private” albums for a select few people (and don’t use your foster child’s name). Once children are legally adopted, it would be up to your discernment.

    We are in Michigan and don’t have weekly reports. If the kids say anything that I think our social worker might want to know or if anything else comes up that I think might be important, I will call the social worker and send her an email. There is usually a lot of paperwork at the beginning of the placement but not too much for us after that. I am sure that stuff varies from state-to-state though.

  6. My wife and i are foster parents here in Missouri. Prior to being married I was a foster parent as single man and had five placements during that time period. This is also when my now 12 year old son was placed with me as 2 year old foster child. I went on to adopt him, obviously and then stopped fostering until three years ago after my wife and I married.

    In addition to being a foster parent, I work for a private Christian agency, MBCH Children and Family Ministries, as a Foster/Adopt/Kinship worker. My primary job is to recruit, train and license foster parents. I have been doing this job for over two years now and have had the pure joy of bringing nearly 30 families through the process and into full licensure.

    The issue of false allegations is something I talk about at length during my training sessions. I always tell folks to expect it to happen, rather than think it won’t happen to you. My first rule of thumb for dealing with an investigation is to start being consistent with your kiddos from the moment they walk in your door. CONSISTENCY is so important for our kids and for us as the parents. If you are consistent you will automatically be able to report how you handle issues in your home without having to think about what you did on that day to deal with that behavior or what have you.

    I love this podcast and agree with every thing you share and so much of it comes straight from the training I give the foster parents I work with. There are times where I think you are reading my mind and I shout out an AMEN to you or quick get Wendy a tissue!


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