We recently were able to participate in the annual Together for Adoption Conference. This episode is based on the breakout session we led there.
We’ve heard a lot of stories about foster care. Sometimes the stories are in the news, sometimes we hear them from people we know, and sometimes strangers volunteer their perspectives. Rather than sweeping the dirt under the rug, we think we should talk about it.
So this episode is our attempt to confront negative stories about foster care experiences. We talk about abusive foster parents, delays in the adoption process, biased social workers and judges, and the pain of getting attached and having to say goodbye.
Come see us in person and enjoy other great speakers at the KidBridge Seminar in Rolling Hills Estates, CA on Saturday, October 29!
T & W respond to a listener question about privacy and security in foster care. We run down the steps we take to insure the privacy and safety of our family.
Also! We’ll be speaking at the Together for Adoption Conference in Phoenix. The conference is October 21-22, 2011. Hope to see you there. Register here.
If you’d like to hear another podcast about foster parenting, you should check out “Our Foster Parenting Experience” Check it out here and here.
D&K prepare to send Dillon off to Kindergarten and deal with Austin’s memories and fantasies about his previous foster mom. They also prepare for a new short-term placement. All comments about college football are welcome.
Learn how churches are partnering with orphans worldwide in an interview with Vanessa Vasquez, Orphan Sunday National Director. W talks with Vanessa about various approaches to Orphan Sunday including prayer, sermons, videos and testimonies.
Vanessa encourages listeners to visit the Orphan Sunday website, which includes a map of Orphan Sunday events, bulletin inserts, and a special live event.
W mentions a previous episode where we hit a nerve with some listeners who dearly loved the Starfish Story.
And, we talk about a surprising trigger for grieving our former foster children: a trip to a local Asian market.
T interviews Jacob, a counselor at Royal Family Kids Camp, a summer program run by churches for foster kids throughout the country and internationally.
Jacob mentioned his film project CAMP. You can contribute to his Kickstarter Campaign here. Help him reach his goal!
D & K celebrate their adoption of Dillon and Austin. They describe their experience at court and the tender moments in the day that made it meaningful. They also let us in on a new situation in their lives and the great many awkward responses it brings.
Our family says good-bye to Luke and Nolan. T & W discuss the details of their move–where they went, why they left and how we’re feeling about their time with us.
Saying goodbye to a foster child is something that most people fear. It’s a concern that even keeps many prospective foster or adoptive families from foster parenting at all. In the midst of this grief, we wanted to talk about what we are feeling and why we don’t regret the experience of being foster parents to Luke and Nolan. Even though the past six months have tested our patience and strength, we are thankful to have had the experience of loving them.
Also in this episode, you’ll hear what it was like to go on vacation as a foster family and the worst thing a teacher has ever said to us.
D & K give an update on their impending adoption and a review of “The Connected Child: Bring hope and healing to your adoptive family” by Karyn Purvis. The book has been extremely helpful in their journey and has given them many practical tips including “3 simple rules”, the “redo” and “choices”.
We share our experience in taking the boys to court and introducing them to the judge who makes the decisions that shape their lives. The experience showed us why taking kids to court isn’t always advised, but might be just what the children need to understand their own situation.
In addition, T attended a TDM (Team Decision Making) Meeting and we run through what that meeting was like and the results from that meeting. In this episode we mention the Family-to-Family model. You can find resources on that here.
We recorded our 100th episode in front of an audience at Olive Crest Foster and Adoption Agency. It was such a pleasure to meet and connect with our listeners.
In this episode we tackle some of the toughest doubts and questions thrown at the foster care system. We respond to questions about inept social workers, the rights of birth parents and the limbo that kids are left in as they wait for the courts to decide their futures. We also share some thoughts on risk and what type of person it will take to reform the system.
by William Arthur Ward
To laugh is to risk appearing a fool,
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement,
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return,
To live is to risk dying,
To hope is to risk despair,
To try is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow,
But he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live.
Chained by his servitude he is a slave who has forfeited all freedom.
Only a person who risks is free.
The pessimist complains about the wind;
The optimist expects it to change;
And the realist adjusts the sails.